30 Days, 10 Questions
Welcome to the 30 day Soul Searching Challenge
You're not stuck because you're not trying. You're stuck because nobody's asked you the right question yet.
Ten questions — proper ones — one every three days. Free.
Free. Ten emails over thirty days. No app, no journal, no streak to maintain. Then it stops.
Does any of this sound familiar?
🫶 "I've done the reading, the journalling, the therapy. I understand myself beautifully. I'm still stuck in exactly the same place."
❤️ "There's a decision I've been circling for about two years. I'm not avoiding it. I'm just… waiting for clarity."
🪐 "I make the decision. Then I unmake it at 2am. Then I remake it."
🔥 "I'm exhausted and I can't point at anything on my calendar that explains it."
You are not short of self-awareness. You've got self-awareness coming out of your ears. You've read the books, done the therapy, filled the journals.
You've just been answering the wrong questions, beautifully, for years.
Let's try some better ones.
Ten questions. Thirty days. It’s that simple.
Most self-reflection fails for the same reason most decisions do: it happens at the speed of the life it's trying to fix.
You read the thing. You feel the flicker of recognition. You think god, that's me. And then Tuesday happens, and by Thursday it's gone - filed away with every other insight you've had and never actually used.
So this one is slow, on purpose.
One email every three days. One idea, two questions. That's it. The gaps aren't me being lazy… they're the method. A question needs somewhere to land. It needs three days of driving to work and doing the washing up and half-listening to a podcast, while some quieter part of you turns it over without your permission.
By the end you'll have ten answers. On their own, they won't look like much.
Read them together, and they will.
What you'll actually do in the 30 days
Notice (days 0–6)
The pace you're moving at. What you're carrying that was never yours. And the decision you've been not-making for longer than you'd comfortably admit.
Undo (days 9–15)
The story underneath that decision. How old you were when you learned it. And what your pattern is still, faithfully, trying to protect you from.
Experiment (days 18–21)
One small thing, done differently. Smaller than you think. Then: what your body did about it.
Decide (days 24–27)
The shape that's been forming for a month. And what you're going to do with it.
No journal required. No streak to break. If you miss one, it waits for you.
"I've already done the work."
Good. Then you'll get more out of this than most.
Here's the difference between this and everything else you've read about yourself.
Everything else tells you. Your type, your profile, your authority, your placements, your attachment style, your Enneagram number. Extremely useful. I've built my entire working life on it.
But a reading works from your chart. This works from your every day moments.
Ten questions, aimed at the actual decision you're actually avoiding, right now, this month, in your real life. Not the archetype. The Tuesday.
And if you already have your Soul Map, run the two together - bring the questions to your map and see what your map says back. That's when it stops being a document you read once, and starts being a thing you use.
(And if the words type, profile and authority mean nothing to you - brilliant. Ignore all of that. The questions work perfectly well on their own, and I promise not to make you learn anything.)
This is for you if…
✅ There's a decision you've been circling for months, possibly years
✅ You're self-aware to an almost inconvenient degree and it hasn't helped as much as it should have
✅ You're tired in a way you can't explain to people who don't feel things this deeply
✅ You'd rather be asked a good question than handed a good answer
It's not for you if…
❌ You want a system, a productivity method, or a five-step fix
❌ You want daily accountability and a streak counter
❌ You'd rather not be asked anything uncomfortable
The honest bit
At the end of the thirty days, I'll tell you about the Soul Map. It's my paid work - a 120+ page personalised reading, written by me, about you, and it's the thing that takes the fragments you'll have collected through the 30 days and shows you the whole picture at once.
You don't have to buy it. The ten questions are yours regardless, they cost nothing, and they work perfectly well on their own.
I'm just not going to pretend I'm not going to mention it.
You've been sold to enough. Our whole world works on immoral sales psychology - panic, fear, ‘you’re not good enough so buy this.’ Let's start this honestly.
Becky x
Something in you already knows what the decision you need to make now is…
Let's start there.
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